90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days star Darcey Silva admits it was “a slap in the face” and a “kick in the ass” to see her exes Tom Brooks and Jesse Meester become friends.
Although Tom and Darcey will be starring on Season 4 of 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days, which just premiered on Sunday, it’s clear — based on their social media activity and numerous reports online — their relationship fizzled out and they’ve both moved on.
But Darcey, 45, said she was very surprised to see that Tom, 40, had befriended Jesse, 27, especially since Darcey had confided in Tom for years about how badly Jesse had allegedly treated her and tried to manipulate her during their former relationship.
“Yeah, I heard about [them hanging out]. I thought that was like a little kick in the ass to be honest with you,” Darcey told Us Weekly in a video interview.
“It was like a slap in the face, but that’s their style and they’re going to do what they want to do anyway.”
Not only were Tom and Jesse spotted having coffee together at a restaurant in New York City in November, but Tom also insisted Jesse “is a good guy” on Instagram after the two European men ended their feud.
Jesse wrote a long message about Tom and Darcey on his Instagram Stories around that same time, which 90 Day Fiance Instagrammer John Yates re-posted on November 21.
“Tom did reach out to me and I accepted his apology. We had a good yet shocking conversation and found out we were both manipulated and played at the same time,” Jesse wrote.
“She told him how bad I was and she told me how bad he was. Result: I thought he was a bad guy and he thought I was… Tom and I were both lied to. He had his lesson, as I had mine… Now we are helping each other and have coffee. Good guy. God, truth and real love always prevails.”
Darcey said of the men’s friendship. “I think people can see through that… What was the reason for it? [Tom] knew exactly how I got treated and he thought that I was very much disrespected by Jesse, and for them to kind of band [together] — I felt ganged up on.”
Jesse, a Dutchman, starred on Seasons 1 and 2 of 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days with Darcey, an American, and the couple was shown having a tumultuous relationship in which they seemed to argue more than they got along.
Once Darcey’s toxic, on and off-again romance with Jesse finally ended, she moved on with Tom, whom she had met on a dating app. Darcey was shown traveling to meet the Brit in person in England on Season 3 of 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days.
“What did I do that was so bad?” Darcey asked in her interview with Us.
“I just gave my heart to these guys and I feel like I got stomped on, and then for them to do that for the media or the press or whatever they were trying to do, it was just a low blow.”
“Nobody wants to feel like that,” she added.
By the time the Tell-All for Season 3 of 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days rolled around, Tom and Darcey were trying to figure out their relationship while Jesse made an unexpected appearance at the taping in what some fans viewed as an attempt to stir the pot and make Darcey uncomfortable.
Jesse claimed he had completely moved on from Darcey but she was “stalking” him “ever since” they split. Jesse insisted he had moved on from Darcey and he just wanted her to do the same.
Meanwhile, Tom accused Jesse of having wronged Darcey and thanked her co-stars for standing up for Darcey and putting Jesse in his place — saying Jesse didn’t belong at the Tell-All. Tom alleged Darcey had lost her voice in her relationship with Jesse at the time. (Darcey had always accused Jesse of being controlling and condescending).
Tom wouldn’t call Darcey his girlfriend at the time and said things were “complicated” between them, but he planned to spend a full day with Darcey in New York City after filming the Tell-All.
However, Tom and Darcey have since split, and now Tom has apparently had a change of heart about Jesse.
“There was an agenda. There must have been!” Darcey noted of the men hanging out together.
“A lot of people saw that and they were like, ‘What the heck? That’s not cool.’ But it is what it is. I don’t really respond to stuff like that in the media and don’t like to give it attention because it just fuels their fire and it’s not worth it for me.”